Member Resources

First, a reminder of our agreements

Once you are registered on the website, you have access to the Virtual Pubs and other material that is confidential. It is incumbent upon you to maintain confidences within the community. Infringements of confidentiality are taken very seriously and can result in exclusion from the community.

Community members are encouraged to attend regular Pub meetings. Failure to attend at least one meeting per month may lead to exclusion from the community. Should that happen, lapsed members are welcome to re-join the community at their convenience.

We agree that our Virtual Pub is:

  • Confidential and private - what's said in the room, stays in the room.
  • Speak personally, from the “I”- this is not a place for judgment or blame.
  • Authentic - we welcome and encourage vulnerability.
  • Trustworthy - we actively build trust together.
  • Non-judgemental - no unsolicited advice will be given & we give feedback only if asked.
  • Appreciative of all people - who they are and their contribution.
  • Respectful of all opinions - everyone's voice is valid.
  • A safe place to disagree.
  • Fun and friendly.

We strive to:

  • Be supportive.
  • Be respectful.
  • Be kind.
  • Be empathic.
  • Be encouraging.
  • Be focused.
  • Be open and honest.
  • Be friendly.
  • Be courageous.
  • Be equitable.
  • Go at our own pace.
  • Communicate clearly to the best of our abilities.
  • Allow for boundaries - our own, and each other's. We remember that these can change over time and that it is our responsibility to communicate this to others.

Zoom online meeting agreements

While we want as few rules as possible, there are some things that enhance the meeting experience for all, so we require that participants respect the following:

  • Good timekeeping - we start on time. Latecomers may not be able to enter the meeting.
  • Join from a private space.
  • Before joining the meeting ensure that you are comfortable and do not have to move (yourself or your camera/phone) while others are speaking.
  • Use headphones if you need them for privacy. No one else must be present in your space.
  • Switch off any other potentially distracting devices or make them inaccessible - focus on your screen - remain present.
  • Close or turn off your screen if someone comes into your private space, so other participants can’t be seen.
  • Please mute yourself when you are not speaking. This not only cuts down on background noise but it is a signal when you un-mute yourself that you are going to speak.
  • If you have to move around for any reason, wait until a man has finished speaking. Before you move, switch your camera off.
  • No use of Zoom chat unless asked to do so.
  • You are under no obligation to speak at any time.
  • Only interrupt a man speaking if you need clarity.
  • If a timer is not being used, please be mindful that this is a forum for all men to speak. The facilitator will show a hand if necessary, which will be a sign for you to wrap up.
  • Commit to staying for the whole meeting when possible.
 The call may be left open, by agreement, at the end of the meeting if men wish to remain and continue the conversation.

More resources coming soon!

If you have something that you feel would be a great resource for members, send it along. If there is something you would like to see here, let us know via the contact form.